I know the obvious answers on how I could use my sexual energy: use that energy to masturbate, and exercise. Does anybody have other ideas?

Clean your closets, the garage or the attic,; sort through your clothes & donate the ones you don’t want, walk the dog, take a bike ride, bake some bread, can some tomatoes…

I know that pre-adolescent kids (up to whenever puberty starts) can sometimes have romantic feelings, or puppy love, but at what age do humans become capable of actual sexual attraction to others? Puberty? Pre-teens? Younger?

If anyone has any factual info that’d be great. Otherwise personal experience is useful too.

12 years is about average, but it can be up to 4 years older or younger in some cases. For example, a friend of mine (female) started puberty at 9 years old, and developed a very intense crush on one of her teachers.

Personally, I was a fairly typical 11, although I think I had faint stirrings at 10.

Aren’t they the same? In the news, sometimes it says rape, other times it says sexual assault. What’s the difference?

most of the time it is the lack of professionalism in the media, they fail to get it right. But even law enforcement is inconsistent in their definitions. Rape involves penetration – sexual assault may simply be unwanted groping or touching.

People always tell me I have a hormone problem or that I’ve had some sexual trauma in the past..Yea. But that’s a usual negative reaction if I say my sexuality to people. I don’t bother much though since it’s none of their Business, but sometimes I do tend to ask questions revolving around it. I couldn’t care less about their insults though.

I’ve been called a fag, been told that god hates me (even though I’m atheist), and that I’ll burn in hell after a long and lonely life.

I live in a gay hating area…

For instance, if a homosexual man has his natal Venus conjunct his female friend’s Mars, or a brother has his natal Mars conjunct his sister’s Pluto.

How do these kinds of energies work in a relationship that is not at all sexual? Thanks.

There will be an undeniable closeness between them. Have you ever seen a pair of friends who are so close you wonder if they are more than friends? They probably recognize something attractive about the other person, even though they aren’t actually attracted to them. Like being friends with a gay man, the woman might describe him as very good looking but wouldn’t actually consider a physical relationship with him.

Now by that I don’t just mean sex, because I am a virgin. But I mean the foreplay and other stuff as well. Me and this guy have been seeing each other for about a week now. Just about everyday. We both know it’s too soon to do anything. Mainly because we genuinely like each other and we don’t want to ruin anything by moving to fast.

But there is this incredible sexual tension between us haha. So I want to know when is the best time to start getting physical?

I don’t think that there is neccessarily a right time. You will know when you are ready. There are other things you can do to relieve some of the tension, things that will bring you together spiritually first. Afterall, intercourse isn’t the only way to be intimate! Dr. Laura Berman has some great columns and books available. You may want to google her…

Lets say you’ve been talking to someone online I.M email etc and they claim to be over 18 . You end up sending them sexual content pictures or stories and a week later they tell you that they are actually 15 years old.
What is the best thing to do? Obviously stop contact with the person all together would be number one.

Trouble has come your way..one should never send out such things in the first place..you will end up in jail..

I read the other day that it was a goal of feminism to "end the sexual objectification of women."

My question is, how do they intend to do this without engaging in some sort of thought control?

im a feminist and i just want to clear this up.

not all feminists have the same mind to begin with. feminism is a belief, a philosophy and like any other it has followers with various opinions.

the goal of feminism is to ensure social,economic, and political equality.

most of the feminists i know in real life and even some of the authors i like reading from usually dont insist on using control to end sexual objectification as a whole, but suggest that as it stands now that is the primary way of depicting women in the media which relates to society as a whole. there are some media outlets of course that have a variety of views on women but usually women are portrayed through the male gaze and viewed as sex objects MOST of the time. the goal should be to portray women in just as many different lights and views as men are often portrayed and not just as sexual objects on one level or another. i agree with this.

I think sexual objectification isn’t ideal but it is inevitable. like those opinions i just gave you, i think that women are often objectified much more than men are. anyone with eyes and a functioning brain can look at society and see this. it has gotten interesting recently where men are sometimes not even looking to a woman as something beautiful to be desired but now are mixing sexual desire with contempt toward women and almost disdain in some cases. i think if we could level things off (there goes that crazy idea of equality again) then things would be great. if a woman could be portrayed more often in our society without the sexual objectification card in play (and not necessarily ending it all together at all) then i think many of us feminists (Though not all) would be very happy. it’s kind of like how as a black girl i don’t like the overwhelming amount of stereotypical portrayals of my people. im not saying they need to be obliterated all together, i am saying that having those images painted out as most or all we really are is b.s. and a little bit more truth needs to be applied.

thats all :]

I’ve been talking to this guy who I used to be involved with. We’ve been somewhat friends with benifits on and off for a while. I want to get him in the mood, but I don’t know what to say to make the setting sexual. So what should I say when we’re talking about stuff like me going to my friend’s house or something?

Joke that you’ll be lezzing out with eachother (you and your friend)? Say "thats what she said" when appropriate. That’s quite a suttle way of doing it.

I know straight out the most obvious answer is "Sexual is that you wanna get in their pants." Well, yes, I know what. But I would like a deeper explanation for that.

Sexual feelings, well, here’ an example.

Say you spend a day with your partner. You keep wanting to do "it" and you feel lots of urges. You look/want to look at their body rather than their face. When you touch them, you press hard. When they talk, you don’t really listen, you just pay attention to their looks, etc.

Love is different. Say they’re gone for a long time. You cry and can’t stand it. When you touch them, you press gently. You can’t believe that you’ve been paired up with such a caring person. You wish you could do all you could to make them happy. You would do anything, I mean anything to have them happy and you would die to see that smile on their beautiful face.

Love and lust are a bit intertwined. But love is stronger and should be the one listened to. Look at successful people’s relationships and compare them to yours.